Further thought from Osho …
What is the Zen approach to sex? The Zen people seem to have a neuter gender, or asexual aura about them.
Zen has no attitudes about sex, and that is the beauty of Zen. To have an attitude means you are still obsessed this way or that. Somebody is against sex – he has an attitude; somebody is for sex – he has an attitude. And for and against go together like two wheels of a bullock cart. They are not enemies, they are friends, partners in the same business.
Zen has no attitude about sex. Why should one have any attitude about sex? That’s the beauty of it – Zen is utterly natural. Do you have any attitudes about drinking water? Do you have any attitudes about taking food? Do you have any attitudes about going to sleep in the night? No attitudes.
[Osho, Sex Matters, pp 178-9]
I totally agree. Everyone seems to have an attitude about food these days – and about drinking water.